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How Understanding Mortality Can Heal Your Relationship - Debra Cruz
Debra Ann Cruz, CEAP, CEC, LPC
Develop Your Strengths & Skills to Succeed

How often do you think about the time you have left—and how that time should be spent with those you love?

Time is our most precious resource, but we often forget this until it’s almost too late. How many times have you said, “I’ll deal with that later,” only to realize that “later” never comes? The awareness of our mortality can be a powerful tool in healing emotional wounds and deepening our connections with those we love.

The Power of Time Awareness in Prioritizing Relationships

When we truly understand that our time is limited, we begin to prioritize what matters most—our relationships. This urgency brings clarity to what is most important, stripping away superficial concerns and focusing on love, connection, and emotional fulfillment. Time awareness is not about living in fear of death but about using our time wisely, ensuring that our relationships are thriving and not overshadowed by unresolved issues.

James and Trudy, a couple married for five years, found themselves constantly bickering over small things—who left the dishes out, why James worked late again, why Trudy seemed emotionally distant. They were so focused on their individual frustrations that they couldn’t see the bigger picture. It wasn’t until a close friend’s sudden passing shook them that they realized how little time they were truly spending together.

The Elite True Love Mastery Toolkit helped them refocus by using the Intentional Time Blocks exercise, which allowed them to schedule uninterrupted time to reconnect emotionally. This realization that their time together was not infinite helped them shift from arguing about small things to cherishing the moments they had together.

Why Understanding Mortality Brings Urgency to Healing Emotional Wounds

When we recognize that life is short, the urgency to resolve emotional pain becomes clear. Holding onto resentment, anger, or fear only drains the time we have with those we care about. Facing mortality reminds us that the time we spend in conflict or emotional distance could be better spent building love and connection.

Trudy, a single professional, had been estranged from her parents for years. She blamed them for her childhood struggles and hadn’t spoken to them in a decade. When her mother became ill, Trudy realized that she had spent so much time holding onto anger that she missed out on years of potential healing and connection.

By confronting her fear of mortality, Trudy found the strength to mend her relationship with her family. She used the True Love Self-Esteem Assessment and the Forgiveness Practice from the Elite Toolkit to work through her resentment and create a path for reconciliation.

How to Make the Most of Your Time with Your Loved Ones

Here are a few steps to ensure that you are using your time wisely in relationships:

  1. Be Present: One of the most powerful gifts you can give someone is your full attention. The Daily Presence Practice in the Elite Toolkit teaches couples and individuals how to be fully present in each moment, without distractions.
  2. Resolve Emotional Pain: Don’t wait until “someday” to deal with unresolved issues. Whether through therapy, journaling, or open communication, address your emotional wounds now to clear the path for deeper love.
  3. Cherish Small Moments: Time is not just about grand gestures or milestones. It’s about the small, everyday moments that build connection. Be intentional about creating these moments, whether it’s a morning coffee with your partner or a phone call to a loved one.

Call to Action: Start focusing on what matters—schedule a session with me to dive deeper into this topic. Join the Diamond Heart Community, where you can access tools and resources for healing and emotional growth!

Saira Zulfiqar